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As we begin dating again, as mid-life adults (between your 40s and 60s), the idea/issue of sex is going to come up. As we age, different goals and energies are running our lives, and sex may or may not be at the top of our agenda. As a single dad, I crave the benefits of being in a relationship and sex is one of those benefits. I also crave having a friend, confidant, someone to hold hands with, someone to encourage, someone to check in with. Of course, sex is still important in my life. And the sexual chemistry often holds the key, for me, between being really into a woman and being casually interested.

Over the last five years, I’ve written a lot about sex, sexual chemistry, and the chemistry between a man and a woman. My views have evolved a bit over those 5 years. Here is an index of the progressions and new awarenesses of a single dad and sexual desire. I’d love to get your feedback in the comments.

Starting Out:  Dating and Sex

• Learning About Sex and Dating As We Go Along
• Building the Perfect Lover: 13 Touch Points On the Path to Relationship
• We Have So Few Chances to Feel Loved
• Sexual Power, Sexual Prime, Sexual Freedom After Divorce
• Sexual Desire: Men & Women, the Chemistry Between Us
• Learning to Love In the Present Moment
• Your Sex Is On Fire: The Intoxicating Burn of Love
• The Five Habits of Bad Sex

Dating Lessons: Moving Beyond Sex to Love

• What Men Think About Sex vs. What A Woman Thinks They Think About
• A Sprinter In Love, and How I Am Learning to Pace Myself
• I Sing the Body Connected
• What I Learned About Sex: It’s Almost All In Your Mind
• Constant Craving
• Back In Pursuit of Love: Slow Dating
• In Search of the Ideal Woman: to Rescue, Restore, and Ravish

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Evolved Dating: Sex Please, But Let’s Form a Friendship First

• Relationship Timing and the Fragility of a True Connection
• Online Dating Optimized – The Next Chapter of Dating After Divorce
• Dating Boundaries After Divorce
• Redefining Dating, As a Man, As a Dad, As a Lover
• Wondering About Beauty, Sex, and My Pursuit of a Lasting Relationship
• Unadulterated Love: The 9 Rules of Joyful Sex

Four Ideas: Dating with Mindfulness:

1. Ladies go first
2. If she’s interested she’ll let you know
3. Hot pursuit might be a turnoff
4. I am enough, just as I am

Ladies go first in the new dating frontier.

“Too busy” is an answer.

Evolved Dating: Learning to Listen

• Evolved Dating: Driven in the Non-linear World of Relationships
• Four Ideas About Dating with Mindfulness: Listening for Signals

Dating again, things have changed for me over the last eight years. I was so energetic about finding and consummating the relationship. Now, I’m more aware of how sex, and my drive for sex, color the texture and honesty in the relationship. I want the other person to show up in an authentic way. I want adult dating that turns into an adult relationship, that turns into a life partner. And for that magical discovery, I’m willing to be patient, to listen more, and to welcome the idea of sex when the basics of a solid relationship have been formed.

Namasté,

John McElhenney – life coach austin texas
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• Wondering About Beauty, Sex, and My Pursuit of a Lasting Relationship
• Online Dating Challenges: Men vs. Women

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