Co-parenting is the process of becoming a partner with the other parent of your children. It begins the minute you discuss having children. The co-parenting agreement should span a lifetime, including what happens in the case of divorce. Start at 50/50 shared parenting? Agree to 50/50 shared parenting in divorce. Become great co-parents. Equals. Allies. Focused on your children and how you can support each other in the difficult journey ahead.

• A Healthy Co-Parenting Plan: Hope for the Recently Divorced Parent
• Present Tense: Co-Parenting Disconnected
• I Am Not the Problem in the Co-parenting Relationship, We Are
• Would You Damage Your Co-Parent’s Livelihood If You Could?
• Understanding My Co-parent’s Malfunction: My Easy Indifference
• I Wish You Well, and Absolutely Nothing Else: Re-forgiving a Co-parent
• Becoming a Healthier Co-parent by Releasing Your Ex
• What Went Down: Divorce is Not Kind. Co-parenting is a Myth.
• Co-parenting Struggles: Withholding the Joy of Your Kids

Even if your ex decides not to co-parent collaboratively with you, they are co-parenting, but in a negative way. You want what’s best for your children. You want a good co-parenting relationship. You want your kids to love you both. Weaponizing co-parenting is a toxic move. Stay positive. If you can’t co-parent nicely, then co-parent without negative inputs.

It only takes ONE PARENT to hold a positive post-divorce relationship. The enlightened parent can lessen the conflict at every stage of co-parenting. When I learned that positive only was the track I was on with my ex-wife, my co-parenting success was no longer tied to her poor behavior.