Joy Archives

Finding joy in your life is a big part of the plan.

I believe we have set points, but not of happiness, of joy. I know that even in moments of extreme grief I can feel joy. Joy is a pursuit. Joy is either a focus of your attention or not. It’s kind of like being positive, but it’s different.

Joy is different than happiness. Joy is part of our internal compass. You’ve got to find your own inner joy. It’s a big shift, this focus on inner joy and not outer happiness. I cannot control many of the aspects of my life. I am not always happy. But, I am learning to be always joyful.

What I Want My Kids to Know About Our Divorce 12 Years Later

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 9, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality
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I am here. I am your dad. And I love you just as much now as I did the moment I helped you out of your mom's body. The best of our lives together is ahead of us.

My Life Coaching Plan in 30-seconds: A Free Gift

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 31, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy life coaching Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad Spirituality
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I help men and women find and keep lasting relationships.

Unquenchable Optimism of the Heart: 12-Years of Dating Lessons

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 16, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad
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When someone is really available they have time, they make time, and they bring their own ideas to the party of planning our journey together.

Don’t Wait and Don’t Settle: Dating Goals

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 2, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad
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I'm developing a relationship with myself and I will eventually believe that I am loveable. And so will you. And anyone that takes that glow away from you is not worthy of your gifts.

Finding Your Perfect Lover and Long-Term Partner

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 26, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Poetry relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex
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Your energy and your vibrancy depend on you being rested and well nourished. Don't burn your candle in the middle and on both ends by pushing yourself with more coffee, more adderall, more stress.

Mindful Parenting – Returns and Love In the New School Year for Parents and Kids

Interrupting Our Own Storytelling: a 4-Step Path to Mindfulness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 30, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality
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Boundaries are constantly changing between you and your commitments. And people with unhealthy, or unarticulated (unknown or misunderstood) boundaries are more at risk of losing their daily momentum to the will and requests of everyone around them.

Supporting Your Disappointment: BRAVING In the Arena of Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 24, 2022
Post category:Anger Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care
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When I have done something to disappoint you I will be sad and sorry myself, but it's likely that the opportunity for healing is just below the surface of my triggering action.