You must give your partner the assurance that you are not running away. And you must also allow them to hold their own pain. By "staying in your own lane" you are giving them several strong messages.
Self-care takes many forms. What we know, is most of us do not take enough time off. We drink coffee to fuel our days and interrupt our nights. Self-care is the process of unwinding ourselves from the rat race and giving our bodies and our souls time to recharge, play, and be quiet.
- ME Cycles and Wondermints: Why Is Self-Care So Difficult?
- Finding Your Inner Goddess: Celebrating Self-Care & Sexuality
- Resilience, Self-Care, the Mindset of Joy in This Moment
- The Power of Saying No: Making Self-Care a Priority Now
- Self-Care and Appreciation: Can I Love All of Myself Right Now?
- More Self-Care, Less Rush Rush Stress and Anxiety
- Self-Care and Fitness: How You Treat Yourself Says More than You Think
Keeping sexual communication open throughout your relationship is critical. As one partner starts closing off, and not just having periods of low sexual desire, but shutting down the idea of sex, something is going to break down.
It is only by recovery that we stop the pattern of abuse, neglect, infidelity, and other love destroyers.
As single parents, dating, those choices now are much less dramatic. We can date, decide to continue or not continue dating, and that's it. No big breakup, no big divorce. Just "we're not dating anymore, maybe we can maintain a friendship."
You deserve a great life. You deserve a huge bonfire of love and happiness. The Sparks are right inside you. The kindling of your life and the power of your attention are all you need to light your fire. Light it.
We want to change others and we get drawn into the fantasy of how we can be that agent of change.
I attempted to give hope to struggling families, hope to divorced and lonely people and a few simple practices of mindfulness.
I was sad from Nov - Mar, but I was not clinically depressed. I was doing all the healthy things I could do to get my energy and spirit back on the right track in my life. And while I was not immediately joyous as a result of these efforts, I learned that by sticking with the program, my program of healthy and conscious living, I could have all the things I wanted in my life.