The science is in: both parents are equally important in kids’ lives. Especially after divorce, dads need to be included. The old family law seems to think moms are the heart of a family and dads are the breadwinners. This cuts against what we now know. Moms and dads provide different aspects to parenting. When a divorce starts at 70/30 with dads getting half as much time as moms, everyone loses.

For Parents and Expecting Parents: The Pre-Natal Agreement from The Whole Parent

Legal References and Opinions:

• My Research on Divorce and Fathers: “Equal parenting time is a public health issue.” – Arizona State University professor
• Deadbeat Dad Business is Big Business: Title IV-D Incentives – video
• The Deadbeat Dad “Hoax” Benefits the State and the Divorce Industry – Dr Stephen Baskerville
• Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family – Dr. Stephen Baskerville
• The Sad Saga of Men and Suicide – 2019 The Toronto Sun
• The scientific benefits of a father’s presence in their kid’s lives – Mother.ly
• Working dads have work guilt too – Mother.ly
• Skin-to-skin care with the father after cesarean birth and its effect on newborn crying and prefeeding behavior – National Institutes of Health
• Father’s Involvement in Their Children’s Schools – a Study – National Center for Education Statistics
• Father Absence and Adolescent Depression and Delinquency: A Comparison of Siblings Approach – National Institutes of Health
• Transactional relations between father involvement and preschoolers’ socioemotional adjustment – National Institutes of Health
• Child Support Enforcement in the United States and the Role of the Private Bar – Child Support Enforcement Council
• Title IV-D – Grants to states for aid and services to needy families with children and for child–welfare services – Social Security Administration
• Amendments:Title IV-D of the Social Security Act – Shared Parenting Info
• Child Support Enforcement And The Social Security Act Title IV-D Program – National Parents Organization

Articles from The Whole Parent on 50/50 Shared Parenting

• Divorce Zero: How the Pre-Natal Agreement Was Born
• The Pre-Natal Agreement Changes Everything About Being a Parent
• When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose
• Mom’s Entitlement After Divorce: Understanding Parental Alienation
• What If Things Had Gone Different In My Marriage, In My Divorce
• A Rebirth of the Compassionate Parent & Divorced Dad Advocate
• How a Balanced Divorce Would Have Better Served My Children
• The War on Divorcing Fathers: Deadbeat Dad Accusations Are Abusive
• Humans of Divorce: Why Child Support Should Be Cooperative
• A Rebirth of the Compassionate Parent & Divorced Dad Advocate
• The Four Simple Rules for Dads Getting Divorced
• Six Real Benefits of Dating a Single Dad
• Finding Our Way Forward As Dads Before, During, and After Divorce
• Getting My Divorced Dad Weekend with My Kids: Men’s Rights in Divorce
• Dear Ex, I Will Forgive You, But I Will Never Forget What You Did
• What Went Down: Divorce is Not Kind. Co-parenting is a Myth.
• The Struggles and Fears About Divorce: Humans of Divorce
• Hold On! The Information You’ve Been Given About Divorce is Wrong
• The Divorced Dad Syndrome Miss-plained By a Divorced Mom
• Would You Damage Your Co-Parent’s Livelihood If You Could?
• As a Nice Guy, My Cooperative Divorce Was Not Fair Or Balanced
• Missplaning Divorce: How Women Benefit In an Imbalanced Divorce
• Reflecting On My Ex-wife’s Rage Nine Years After the Divorce She Wanted
• A Single Dad Sends His Hope and Greetings from the Other Side
• Dad’s Divorce Journey: 9-years Later I Still Feel the Loss of Kid-time
• The Emotional Cost of Divorce is High for Everyone
• 80% of Single Moms Will Never Understand a Single Dad’s Struggle
• Her Aspirational Divorce: Seeking a Better Life for Your Kids
• The Low-Conflict Divorce Hustle: What You Don’t Know Will Hurt You
• Deadbeat… < What’s the First Word That Came to Mind?
• Defining the Deadbeat Mom
• Divorce, Kids, and Money: How Co-parenting and Custody Breakdown Roles
• The Divorce Brochure part 1: How Women Can Play the Game of Divorce to Win
• The Divorce Brochure part 2: Hey Dads, How Does This Sound to You?
• The Blurry Lines Between Divorced Parents: Entitlement & Narcissism
• What I Imagined About the Coming Divorce: The Loss Was Worse
• Co-Parenting Problems and Healing Strategies
• Single Father Manifesto: I’ll Never Stop Pursuing You

Here’s a little video I made to show the disparity of typical 70/30 custody agreements.

And check out this video about how the federal government funds our state governments.

And here’s a lawyer arguing against shared parenting because the state will lose…