Is Someone Getting the Best of You?

If you work on your relationship by sharing what's good and bad and making critical adjustments, you're on your way towards building a lasting relationship. If you or your partner begin looking for emotionally intimate connections with people outside the relationship you need to look at what the problems and opportunities are.

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The Powerful Pause Before Jumping Into a New Relationship

As we become clearer in our boundaries, in what is good for us and what is not good for us, we can make choices more easily. When something doesn't feel good, we're able to say, "NO. This will not work for me."

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Here’s What I Told Her About My Trauma

It's hard when you're on the receiving end of someone else's trigger. But we can get better at identifying our own triggers and triggered moments. And there are ways to help our partners notice when the rage or sadness that is coming out of them, might be a bit bigger or deeper than the infraction that caused the initial pain.

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Dear Custodial Parent: We Are All Still Together After Divorce

I wish she had taken me or the kids into consideration before going full-force for the custodial divorce deal. It was not good for any of us, her included.

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