If you don't do the work, you may remain stuck in the past. You may wrestle with the depression and demons of your parent's transgressions and lack of support.
I believe if you parented together you should continue that loving and inclusive process even if you're no longer married to one another.
Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.
The news says men are not interested in getting married anymore. Can you understand why? Want a kid, sure let's have a kid. Marriage? Why?
Deciding whether to divorce is a tough, complex, and controversial subject. There are no right or wrong answers, nor are there any simplistic solutions.
I am here. I am your dad. And I love you just as much now as I did the moment I helped you out of your mom's body. The best of our lives together is ahead of us.
The fracture and collapse of my marriage ultimately became the emotional firestorm that uncorked my artistic voice. In my own individual struggle to survive, I found my release through writing. After the divorce, as I thrashed and fell apart during the months following my separation, I wrote to make sense of what was happening.
My kids would've gotten a better version of me. We would've stayed a bit closer as a family, even after I left, because the bills would all be split. And my house would've been just as comfortable as mom's house.