If you’ve been with us long, a reader, you’ll know I’ve written a lot about drinking and it’s role in our romantic relationships. Here’s my bottom line: drink if you want to. And, in the last 8 months, I’ve started having a drink or two on special occasions. It’s not that I don’t want anyone to drink. It’s not that I don’t want anyone to get drunk. It’s more about giving people a bit more self-awareness around their drinking and how it may be affecting themselves and those around them.
The Third Glass
The third glass became a metaphor for when my partner went tipping over from buzzed to impaired. What I’d like you to know, is that when you habitually drink to obfuscation you are self-medicating with alcohol. It might be healthier to get some therapy or coaching to see if you can break out of the evening battle with suppression and escape. If you like to drink every night, that’s up to you. If you drink every night to the point of forgetting and isolation, that’s a different type of drinking. My goal with this simple and small book is to help people become aware of their habitual drinking and to take a self-assessment about how it might be affecting their relationships.
My hope is that in writing this book I give some people a new perspective on their own consumption of alcohol and how it may be affecting their lives and the lives of their partners and family. You don’t have to be an alcoholic to take charge of your relationship with alcohol. It’s a powerful drug. It should be used with respect and care. When drinking becomes habitual and destructive, it might be time to get some help. In these pages tell my own story, my own love story with a person to really liked to drink.
May you find peace in your life, love in your relationships, and a sipping tequila that you dip into occasionally.
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