When the Sexual Chemistry Knocks the Sense Right Out of You
If the sexual chemistry is not found or established within the first few dates, then I am going to take NO for an answer about the potential of the relationship.
Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.
For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”
I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.
We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.
If the sexual chemistry is not found or established within the first few dates, then I am going to take NO for an answer about the potential of the relationship.
I have learned to let go and let love. And when the right one comes along I will not hesitate, I will not hold back, I will not shy away from saying what I want.
At this moment, I am single. And at this moment, I know that the next woman IS THE ONE. Until she isn't.
The relationship will arrive when you are focused on your own happiness and growth. Get out there and have fun with yourself.
If you're in the middle of a breakup, or if you're not happy in your relationship, make sure you are talking to someone besides your significant other.
"I wake up each morning with an 'oh fuck' on my lips. Sometimes I even say it out loud several times as I'm trying to get motivated to make coffee and start the day." Breaking up and depression.
When sex enters a relationship everything changes and your thinking is going to be challenged for 6 months to a year. Don't trust your thoughts during this period. Don't make any big decisions together. If you get to two red flags, again, BOLT.
We work the online dating sites and apps, and we seek some more, but we might be seeking someone to fix what's broken inside of us. And guess what? That never goes well.