Dating

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Ferris Bueller Gets a Divorce: A TV Series That’s a Bit Off

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 2, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money Parenting Poetry relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The pitch: "Ferris Bueller gets a divorce."

The Beauty Warp: Reality Distortion Fields Around Beautiful Women

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 27, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex

Blessings to all of the amazingly gorgeous women and men out there. I know it's not easy for you. I hope you find your way to a balanced and healthy love. You deserve mutual respect and not just adoration.

Conscious Connection, Intimacy, and Fun: Real Relationship Goals

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 25, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

There is absolutely no hurry. You have all the time you need. Spend time together. Spend time apart. Listen. Learn. And move forward.

Catching Up On My 11-Year Love Quest: Girlfriend Next

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 23, 2022
Post category:Dating Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

Home is inside me. Home with someone else is a horizon I knew I was losing in my divorce. After eleven years of seeking, perhaps I'm getting ready to rebuild a home with someone else.

The Power of Sex: Let’s Explore the Edge of the Unknown Together

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 23, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Spirituality

In my conversation with Krysta Rosina, I am delighted to learn about her sex-positive approach to life and living. From an ecstatic tantric experience several years ago, she redirected her life's work. In this conversation, we explore her first massive tantric event.

Online Dating Is A Distraction: Expanding Opportunities Offline

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 23, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'm going to play the online dating game for a limited amount of time. I know it's a distraction. Browsing profiles online is NOT DATING. Get out there. Get into your best life and look for others around you doing the same thing. If a conversation comes up with a person of interest on Bumble or Match.com, great, but I'm not counting on the dating apps and sites to do anything for my love life. Let's get out and do what we love. I'll meet you there.

F2N Scale: Understanding Sex and Energy in Relationships

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 22, 2022
Post category:Anger Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Spirituality

By resetting our expectations about sex just a little (when we both have the energy) we can count on a more engaged and spontaneous partner. You can't be present when you're drowsy.

Finding Balance in a World Addicted to Getting High

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 17, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I alone am responsible for how I navigate each day of my life. My care team comes into play when I have questions or need a fresh perspective on what I'm struggling with. Make sure you've got people around you that you can contact when you need them.