Dating Archives

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Dear Hon: The Whole Parent’s Advice on Love and Relationship-Building

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 7, 2021
Post category:Dating Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Defining a "single parent": Dads and Moms who have sole responsibility (not custody) for their kids at any time during the week are SINGLE PARENTS.

Six Rules of Online Dating: Mathematics of Beauty (OkCupid Study)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 6, 2021
Post category:Dating humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'd really like to spend my every other Saturday nights wrapped around a lovely and articulate woman. I'm hopeful that I can get my roll right and that eventually, the numbers will come up in my favor.

Finding Peace w/ Unsettled, Unresolved, and Incomplete: Surrender

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 5, 2021
Post category:Dating Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If you can arrive at NOW. If you can return to NOW again and again through the course of your day, you will find YOUR ANSWER.

The Language of Love: Speaking the Truth with Kindness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 4, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Sex sexual chemistry

Don't speak if you're message is unimportant. And when you do speak, pay attention to the words and the way you are communicating. Then, stay in the feedback look with the object of your attention, and tune to their energy and attention.

Understanding My Co-parent’s Malfunction: My Easy Indifference

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 3, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

Our kids are doing fine, in spite of your brutally selfish and vindictive actions. I release you and your partner to live in peace with an easy indifference.

Pointing Your Arrow Towards Happiness: Lessons In Self-Awareness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 1, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Giving others (friends, lovers, business associates) the opportunity to JOIN in the conversation is a good thing. I need to do more listening and less talking.

Dating 2.0: Enticing and Keeping the Next Love of Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 1, 2021
Post category:Dating Depression Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Love Money relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Spirituality

If there's an imbalance in the first weeks or months of the relationship, there are going to be bigger issues as you move deeper into the choppy waters of real relationship building.

The Beauty, the Beast, and the Funster On the Prowl

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 28, 2021
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Sex Single-Dad

It's got to start with me. I have to continue to refine my roll, continue to work on my own global takeover, continue to seek with an open heart and an open mind.