depression and divorce Archives

Back to the Beginning: Co-Parenting with Serenity

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 19, 2018
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Co-parenting is about accepting the other person for who they are, exactly as they are, and holding them in the best light you can.

Serenity with my Ex-wife Begins and Ends with Me

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2018
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

I may not reach serenity with my ex-wife and her new husband ever. That's okay. The serenity is within me. I am doing, have done, and will do the best I can to support my kids and keep my relationship to them above the fray my ex continues to keep seething around us.

Sex, Love, and Relationships: Dating Is A Bit Like Space Travel

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 7, 2018
Post category:Dating Depression Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

So as I speed away from another "potential" I am trying to be aware of the great things I learned. And most of all, I hope to make use of the momentum her gravity and ultimate slingshot has provided for the path ahead.

How Am I a Suicide Statistic? Divorced Dads Are High Risk

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 2, 2018
Post category:Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

We're all on this journey alone. No matter how many loving family members or supportive friends are around us, it is our decision that keeps us walking past the open window.

I Am a Dad’s Rights Advocate

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 15, 2018
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

What I can do, is fight a bit for what I think is right. I can let the AG's office thrash at me a bit longer. I can begin paying my monthly obligations like clockwork to keep their enforcement tools from dropping all my bank accounts to zero. Today, I can begin fighting back for future fathers. And, today, I can work towards a tiny balance of power surrounding the child support debt I owe.

The Hunger of the Unattached Male

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 18, 2018
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I know myself "in a relationship" as a man who is satisfied and settled. I am no longer driven by the energetic part of the sex-brain that is hunting for attractive and available women. When I have a relationship to lean into I can settle down into my life's work that is about more important things.

The Positive Single Dad: Year Four in Review

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 12, 2017
Post category:Dating

And for a long period I was mute. Waiting. Searching for the strength to write again and the courage to write about what was happening, that wasn't so positive.