Love Archives

Love is the core skill and core need we all have. Many of us grew up in homes where love was conditional. If you behave this way I will love you. If you go against my wishes, I will exclude you from my love. This is not how love works. Love is universal energy, either you’re tapped into it and give it freely, or you are lacking in love.

The Joy of Young Parents

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 4, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Self-care

I can be present, I can be honest, and I can be vulnerable with them. Today I saw the joy and blessing of a little girl with her mom and dad. I saw myself 10 and 15 years ago. And I woke up.

Haunted By the Ghost of a Kiss: My First Tinder Date Experience

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 26, 2016
Post category:Dating Depression Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'd meet her and kiss her today if she called. But I'm pretty clear now, that she won't. And it would not be the best thing for me either. Heady, but not healthy. Oh love, you fickle bitch.

1/3 Dad: Most of Your Nights Will Be Alone

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Single-Dad

What is an evening with your kids worth? Is there an amount of money or time spent elsewhere that I wouldn't give to have more time with my kids?

8 Lessons from My First 2 Divorces

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 14, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Single-Dad

It seems the biggest marker for success is the general outlook of the other person: Happy camper vs. unhappy camper. In my second marriage I thought we had a match, but the stress and change brought on by having kids sort of flipped her mode.

Sexual Attraction and the Single Parent of a Certain Age

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 11, 2016
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Today I'm not really people watching for attractive young women. I notice the allure and draw of their energy and physical form. No. More I am looking for the energy of life in all its active forms.

Focusing On the Other Person is a Trap

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 3, 2016
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Married Life Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I'm a happy climber. And I'm in a relationship now with another happy climber. There's always going to be hills in life, and it is your attitude about your own work ahead that makes the difference.

Dating a Single Father – Version 2.0

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 15, 2016
Post category:Dating humans of divorce Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

You deserve a kick-ass relationship. You deserve honesty, monogamy, and awesome sex. Make sure you're not settling for Mr./Mrs. Meh. In the long run, only the magic will preserve your relationship, so you'd better get on with the task of finding THE ONE.