The Beauty Trap: How Good Looks Can Lead Us Astray
I am full of desire. And when I don't have an object for my affection I project that romance on to everyone who passes by. My first two marriages were…
What the Bear in Your Bed Might Be Telling You: Managing Anxiety
I don't suffer from anxiety a lot, but in the past week, I've found myself on several nights wrestling with a bear. Here is what the bear was telling me.…
The Hierarchy of Relationship Needs: My Four Levels of Attraction
As the online dating universe continues to be ho-hum for me, I'm continually wondering what it takes for someone to light up my relationship antennae. It seems to me there are…
Sexual Hunger: How Friends with Benefits Became a Lie for Me
Yes, we are sexual animals. And from time to time I imagine doing the dating thing with more of a "hookup" mentality. It won't work. I tried having a FWB…
Going Meta: Divorce, Depression, and Befriending Sadness
I am a feeling-driven person. My moods can drive ecstatic highs of creativity and pull me into lows of lethargy and inertia. There's no amount of lamenting that's going to…
What I Need To Tell You: Take Heart After Divorce. It Gets Better.
I'm happy. My posts/poems about desire are really about hoping and striving towards "what's next." I had a friend ping me on Facebook yesterday after reading one of my poems.…
Online Dating Adventure: What Is Your Quest?
We, as a culture, have to get better at relationships. We've got to take ownership of our own issues and dysfunctions. Do you know what you are looking for when…
Wondering About Beauty, Sex, and My Pursuit of a Lasting Relationship
I don't want another date or really another girlfriend. (Though that was fun.) I'm impatient. I know this about myself. I want it all now. I want to be in…
