Finding joy in your life is a big part of the plan.

I believe we have set points, but not of happiness, of joy. I know that even in moments of extreme grief I can feel joy. Joy is a pursuit. Joy is either a focus of your attention or not. It’s kind of like being positive, but it’s different.

Joy is different than happiness. Joy is part of our internal compass. You’ve got to find your own inner joy. It’s a big shift, this focus on inner joy and not outer happiness. I cannot control many of the aspects of my life. I am not always happy. But, I am learning to be always joyful.

Big Love & the Tonic Effect of Being In a Nourishing Relationship

Each day, we just groove. Watching a movie, cooking dinner, walking her dogs, I am happier together with someone who is holding my hand.

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Looking to Get a Little Higher: Seeking Elevation & Immortality

If I can be more conscious of my moments, my intake, and my decisions about rest vs. success, I can be happier with the body I have.

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What I Learned About Drinking: The Summer of Love

I also learned that drinking is not a life path that's going to bring you much joy. And as you get more routine about your nightly start, you get less intentional about what you want to do with your free time.

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Big 5 Relationship Questions to Answer Before You Start Dating Again

So let's make a pact, in our next round of dating "work" I want to commit to pursuing only the clear YES women. Everything else is a distraction. If I am interested in a relationship, that's going to take time, patience, perspective, and the right YES woman.

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Defining 5 Love Skills: Moving the Love Languages Into Action

I do rely on Love Languages a lot, but I think we need more than that. We need action and clear commitments to fulfill with our partners. We need to give them the space to miss us. The space to get into their own inner dialogue about dreams and projects. We need to feel our own isolation and how much more vibrant we feel when we are together.

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This Very Moment… This Is It… Stop… Smell the Roses… Give Thanks.

Stay in alignment with your goal. Make sure your goal is aligned with your purpose. And then notice when things are going right for you.

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A Golden Thread Between Lovers: How Do We Disconnect?

As I learn more about my personal investment in threads, and my reluctance to let go of an elevated connection, I am better able to manage my own interactions, my own energy, and my own decisive disconnection of a golden thread.

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