Divorce

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

Trying Again to Be 100% Positive

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 6, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

When I set out on this journey, three years ago, to build a 100% positive divorce parenting blog, well... I knew there would be challenges.

What I Wish My Ex-wife Knew

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 20, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Married Life Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

I've given up imagining that my words or actions can change her in any way. We'd like to think we can make another person happy, or comfortable, or secure. Unfortunately, we cannot.

Custody Should Be a Collaborative Term

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 11, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Single-Dad

In my future, I have my ex-wife to thank for the hardship of used car loan rates in excess of 19%. And she could care less. She claims to be all compassionate and always interested in protecting the kids' interests. But suing your co-parent is not protecting anyone's interest.

The Joy of Young Parents

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 4, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Self-care

I can be present, I can be honest, and I can be vulnerable with them. Today I saw the joy and blessing of a little girl with her mom and dad. I saw myself 10 and 15 years ago. And I woke up.

Back to School Challenges as a Divorced Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 1, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Money Self-care Single-Dad

Another year begins. My daughter is on to Volleyball, Basketball and Track/Tennis. And we're all back to our 70/30 routine. And I've got nothing to complain about and plenty to be grateful for.

Divorce Statistics

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 23, 2016
Post category:Divorce

When you have children everything changes. The consequences of your divorce become much larger. And now you have their lives to consider as well. And while it's not always a…

For Hire: Used Husband, Classic Model, Works Well With Kids

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 31, 2016
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

And so, I've been girlfriend free since the end of the summer and it's fine. I'd rather not be. But I'd rather be alone that coping with another person's major emotional distress. I don't need drama or high theater.

First Date Lessons: If You’re Not Falling, You’re Not Learning

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2016
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

It's all new territory for me and most of us out there dating again after divorce. And I'm okay with that. We're all just trying to figure it out. It's a process. Onward we go with good illumination and perhaps a glass of wine.