Why Entitlements In Divorce Are Abusive
Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.
Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.
POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)
Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.
Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.
Listen to your body. If you are feeling sad, check in with someone else. If you notice your overall vibe heading towards the black hole, take all necessary evasive actions.
In my life, I have believed that I deserve to be loved with the same intensity and integrity that I am capable of. I have found a worthy recipient. The feeling is mutual.
Attachment parenting is the way to go. One parent, weaponizing the divorce, can do untold damage to the kids.
The news says men are not interested in getting married anymore. Can you understand why? Want a kid, sure let's have a kid. Marriage? Why?
It's hard to let them go. It's hard not to complain about their lack of response. But, the way forward is love and enthusiasm without strings.
I have a reverence of my moods these days. I am no longer beholden to them. I can love these former lovers and still do nothing to reach out to them. I am pointed in a healthier and happier dream now.
If you can remove your emotional attachment to your ex you can begin to heal and move into your next chapter. The best years are ahead of you.