Divorce Archives

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

Managing Depression In Romantic Relationships: Getting Real w/ Myself

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 26, 2023
Post category:Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness Joy Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I am learning to love my HIGH self and my LOW self equally. It's a ninja mind trick, but I can do it.

Finding Joy as a Single Parent During the Holidays: Our Celebration

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 24, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I like to be on top of the world, as most of us do, but I haven't done very well in the past when I sink into "maintenance mode" rather than aspirational mode. What I learned from my last stumble is that I AM MY OWN WORST ENEMY.

Followed by the Black Dog (of depression)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 1, 2023
Post category:Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Self-care Single-Dad

One of the most pivotal moments in recovery is admitting to yourself that depression is a problem. For me, isolation is pretty deep on the list of symptoms. By the time I'm isolating and fucking up at work, the other mechanics of depression are in full bloom.

Finding the Kindness In All of Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 8, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

As a co-parent to a narcissistic is has not been easy. In most of the negotiations, I was given no chance to be on top.

Pura Vida: Finding and Sharing Our Eternal Optimism

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 6, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

In this sacred life, we have a limited number of hours in our day. The same number of hours as every other being in our space-time continuum. By checking in with your intentions and actions on a regular basis you can begin adjusting your life towards the life you want.

Weaponization of Divorce: Moms v. Dads = Kids Lose

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 4, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

Something about my celebration of my kids, my ability to house them while it was my weekend, caused my ex-wife more fury.

Reaching a Moment of Peace and Happiness As a Single Dad

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 4, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Some days it is good to just stop and say "thank you" to your higher power, your family, your partner. Today is that day. I'm marking a high-point in my life.