Divorce

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

You Are Here: Taking Stock of Your Perfect Moments

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 16, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What do you need to cut the tether attaching you to this bag of these BULLSHIT-LIES you keep telling yourself? Write them down. Identify the "little black bastards" pulling you down.

A Quick-Start Guide for the Divorcing Dad: The Off Times

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 10, 2022
Post category:Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Finally, if you're going to agree to a cooperative divorce, make sure you add in a clause about NEVER INVOLVING THE ATTORNEY GENERAL'S OFFICE. EVER.

Present Tense: Co-Parenting Disconnected

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 9, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Sure, you can lean into your kids' anger about the divorce. But your role as a parent is to help them separate their emotions from your emotions. Your anger has infused their entire lives.

My Transformational Divorce: The 4 Stages of Divorce Recovery

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 7, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Everything that happened from the moment my then-wife said she’d been to see a lawyer, has delivered me up to be healed in a way that would not have been possible had we stayed together.

Where’s the Line Between Lust & Love: Sexual Connection

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 6, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad

I want a woman who is emotionally available, mature, and ready for a relationship. In some cases, what's happenend in my past, is getting too far down the sexual chemistry and hot sex before I've had a chance to understand the long-term compatibility and potential of this partner.

Therapy vs Life Coaching: Two Different Processes & Goals

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 4, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I work with men and women who are looking to reset their priorities in life to align more with their long-term goals. What's keeping you from achieving your dreams? What parts of your life need attention?

Resetting Your Priorities in the New Year as a Single Parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Here's what I know. My ex-wife has nothing to do with my happiness or success. My positive approach to life is how I show up for my kids. They are watching us. They are learning from our actions. How we deal with hard times will inform and set their own internal compass for later in life as they run into challenges.

Who Am I To Be Telling Anyone About Healthy Relationships?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 2, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I simply let go and pay little or no attention to the things that are out of my control. What I have control over, I manage with greater joy and energy.