Divorce

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

Finding Myself and My Body, Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 18, 2022
Post category:Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What I need is a radical rethink of myself and a full-court press on fitness as a priority in my life.

At the End of Sex and the End of My Marriage

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 17, 2022
Post category:Depression Divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex

The first time when we were making love during this period, that I noticed things were off, I caught her looking out the window, seemingly bored. "Are you okay?" I asked.

How Do You Suffer the Fools and Jerks in Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She still cannot see how planting discontent on my kids towards me is hurting them more than it's hurting us. She is actively damaging her own relationship with her kids over MONEY.

End of Divorce: Kids Out of House But Ex-Wife Still Playing Games

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Today, nearly a year later, I am still a deadbeat dad on the record. Despite several calls to the AG's office and several agreements to resolve and close the child support account, I am still in arrears by $1.39.

Universe Says: FULL STOP

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness mindfulness Parenting Self-care Spirituality

It's been the most intense and transformative month of my young 55-year-old life. I felt at times like my skin was being burnt away by the velocity of the change underway. The pace of change, conflict, resolution, conflict, opportunity, and so on, was exhausting. I stopped drinking coffee because I didn't need any stimulants. I adjusted my psyche meds to reduce activation.

Who Are You Writing For?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 18, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I genuinely believe that family laws are corrupt and need to be reset to start at 50/50 parenting with no child support. I love helping moms understand single dads and how to relate to them.

Closer to the Edge: Fractures In Our Communication Skills

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 25, 2022
Post category:Anger Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

As we continue to go for a lifetime lover, we've got to be prepared to learn, study, grow, stretch, and reach back to our lovers for the REPAIR. Either partner can go for the repair. And both partners should work towards the repair, even if the bridge is collapsed in smoldering ruins.

Falling Out of The Loop As a Single Parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 20, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

My role now is very similar to my non-custodial dad role. I don't have a lot of time or opportunities to engage with my kids. I have to reach out. Keep reaching out. And let go of any outcome.