Dating Archives

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Risking Everything In Love: We’re Not Playing Games

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 8, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care sexual chemistry

BOTH partners need to be willing, have intentionality towards building a sustainable relationship, and then have the TIME to spend building the WE.

The BEST OF The Whole Parent: Single Parenting Guide

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 18, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If we can see and seek the balanced parenting approach we might be able to continue that holistic love even as the marriage comes apart.

Your Relationship Coach / Wingman Has Arrived: 9 Wingman Skills

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 5, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

My work is to help women and single moms get strong, healthy, and confident enough to design the relationship of their dreams. It's not always easy. And, we know there are no shortcuts to doing the work on yourself that will put you in the right mindset to attract a kickass partner.

A Muse Enters and Leaves

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 1, 2022
Post category:Dating Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy relationship building Relationships self-awareness sexual chemistry Single-Dad

a muse is a near miss. A woman who I can see potential and hope with. A woman that meets some unspoken standards, and fits some magical equation in my heart.

Listening for Desire and Motivation: Crafting Love that Lasts

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 14, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry

I need the vital connection and the clear communications to become part of our DNA. Then, when you're "ready and rutting," let's get it on!

Big Love & the Tonic Effect of Being In a Nourishing Relationship

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 13, 2022
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad Spirituality

Each day, we just groove. Watching a movie, cooking dinner, walking her dogs, I am happier together with someone who is holding my hand.

Looking to Get a Little Higher: Seeking Elevation & Immortality

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 7, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If I can be more conscious of my moments, my intake, and my decisions about rest vs. success, I can be happier with the body I have.

In This Moment You Choose: Happy or Resentful

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 31, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Love mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

Pay attention to your mind. When the monkey mind jumps into gear, try and find a moment to observe your thinking, as if you are an observer. Then decide: do I want to continue this runaway train of thought, or should I focus on something that I can actually have an effect on?