Love Now, Love Well, and Love With Everything You’ve Got
By becoming mindful, I can remain confident and consistent even when I'm working on something that is unpleasant. It is time to take charge of your life and your time.
Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.
For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”
I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.
We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.
By becoming mindful, I can remain confident and consistent even when I'm working on something that is unpleasant. It is time to take charge of your life and your time.
If you want joyful sex, you explore and ask for a joyful partner. And when the chemistry is ON you can imagine seeking ever deeper levels of connection with this partner.
It is not our job to fix broken relationships or broken people. Our job is to show up in the arena of a relationship and do the best we possibly can to love and be loved.
If she doesn't' respond to my daughter, why would I think she's going to respond or even be friendly to me? I don't think about it much, anymore. It's so much more obvious as we now enter the 10th year of our co-parenting journey, that she really is a bit self-centered.
If interruptions or random connections begin to affect your present life, it's time to block, silence, and ignore. Sounds a bit rough, but continuing the connection, the conversation, and the reflection is counterproductive.
It is critical to articulate what you want in a partner. Then, stick to it. Don't settle for average.
Show you love your partner by putting them first. Give them your time. Give them your attention and mini-connections throughout the day.
If Bumble is successful you stay hopeful and keep paying them for the extras. If you are successful a partner will take you offline off their quota.