Divorce

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

Listening to the Sadness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 14, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking humans of divorce Love Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

I learned to do a killer swan dive that summer at the country club. In my feelings of sadness and dread of the coming hurricane of divorce, I began to detach from the happy rich kid.

Divorce Recovery: How Long Must We Stick to the Lie?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 12, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I don't want a single parent to get lost in the shuffle of divorce. I want fathers and mothers to have equal access to their children, even in the case of divorce.

Emotional Intelligence In Kids and Ex-Wives and Their New Husbands

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 11, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad Spirituality

Always respect the other parent. Keep fathers in their kids' lives by giving them half a chance to maintain that relationship. The same chance you have.

How an Angry Co-Parent Can Harm Your Kids for Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 6, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Divorce Parenting Single-Dad

And, please, don't aim barbs at your kids meant to hurt your former partner. It never works as expected. Arrows fired at your ex will always affect your children on the way to the target.

I Am Holding My Breath: A Wonderful Pause Along My Divorce Recovery

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 2, 2023
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Your future is in creating the secure attachment you've always wanted and deserved.

The New World Order of Dating: What’s the Path?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2023
Post category:Dating Divorce Love relationship building Relationships Self-care sexual chemistry

Take your time. Find what turns you on. Make sure you know what you want and what you bring to a new relationship. Then, HAVE FUN.

A Dad’s Path After Divorce Is Hard and Lonely

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I lost everything in that moment. I lost my fighting spirit. I agreed to the Standard Possession Order (SPO) schedule and I agreed to let my wife be the custodial parent.

Losing the Meaning of Life As My Marriage Blasted Me Out of the House

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 28, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Divorce is not the end of the world. However, it's often the end of most dad's major bonding and influence with his kids. Most divorces end with dads being marginalized by the family court precedents.