Anger

Anger is a healthy emotion.

When you feel anger, what you do with the excess energy is all-important. Harness your anger to move towards your goals and dreams. Anger at ex-partners, anger at the state of the world, anger at a shitty manager, each is like little charging station to increase your blood pressure. Use that pressure to move your plans forward. Don’t look back in regret. Leave those people in the dust. Anger informs your soul. Listen to what hurts. And then, learn to move forward out of what is making you angry towards things that make you happy.

Suppressed anger leads to health issues, depression, rage, and addiction. By building a healthy response to your anger, you can begin to move your life towards happiness and contentment. Your anger towards someone else is YOUR issue. Let it go. Move onward and upward.

Toxic anger is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. It’s only going to make you sick. Unresolved anger is not good for you or any of the people around you. Let go of your anger. Use anger for good.

Can You Be a Good Dad After Divorce?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 20, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

I am always here for my son. He's been trained to believe some alternative narratives of what happened.

Staying Positive, Resetting, and Getting Positive Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 19, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She's in control this time. Much more in control than she was in the marriage. Having the angry hammer over my head, must give her some satisfaction, knowing she could precipitate my financial shut down with one phone call.

Listening to the Sadness

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 14, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking humans of divorce Love Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

I learned to do a killer swan dive that summer at the country club. In my feelings of sadness and dread of the coming hurricane of divorce, I began to detach from the happy rich kid.

Divorce Recovery: How Long Must We Stick to the Lie?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 12, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I don't want a single parent to get lost in the shuffle of divorce. I want fathers and mothers to have equal access to their children, even in the case of divorce.

Emotional Intelligence In Kids and Ex-Wives and Their New Husbands

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 11, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad Spirituality

Always respect the other parent. Keep fathers in their kids' lives by giving them half a chance to maintain that relationship. The same chance you have.

Kids, Divorce, Good Parenting, and Summer Jobs

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 7, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Parenting Single-Dad

I have always been in support of my son. I have taken on his mom and her husband about the issues concerning his health. And, as usual, I have been shut out by them as well.

How an Angry Co-Parent Can Harm Your Kids for Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 6, 2023
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Divorce Parenting Single-Dad

And, please, don't aim barbs at your kids meant to hurt your former partner. It never works as expected. Arrows fired at your ex will always affect your children on the way to the target.

A Dad’s Path After Divorce Is Hard and Lonely

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 1, 2023
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I lost everything in that moment. I lost my fighting spirit. I agreed to the Standard Possession Order (SPO) schedule and I agreed to let my wife be the custodial parent.