What I Need To Tell You: Take Heart After Divorce. It Gets Better.
I'm happy. My posts/poems about desire are really about hoping and striving towards "what's next." I had a friend ping me on Facebook yesterday after reading one of my poems.…
Your Kids Are Watching How You Cope with Divorce
They are learning from you 100% of the time. They see you deal with disappointments, frustrations, and celebrations. They learn how to behave by watching your life. If you are…
How a Balanced Divorce Might Have Better Served My Children
I wanted to recalibrate our family financial plan and see what other options were available to us as an aspirational couple. My then-wife was not happy about my idea to…
Beginning a #metoo Conversation Is Difficult for Both Men and Women
Being an ally in the #metoo revolutions means developing a more evolved response. This morning I stepped right into the #metoo conversation. A woman who I respect and have known…
The Beleaguered Single Mother
I don't know much about how my ex-wife dealt with the divorce and her recovery from the breakup of our family. I do know she got the lion's share of…
Tapping Into the Sadness Underneath My Recent Losses
When you begin building a relationship, part of what you are envisioning is how the two of you will progress into a full-blown, loving, couple. All the dreams of what life will be like with this person are there for your enjoyment.
The Blurry Lines Between Divorced Parents: Entitlement & Narcissism
Entitlement is a hard word. It's a bit harsh. It carries a lot of judgment, so I'm going to try to take this one apart and examine it from all…
Divorce, Kids, and Money: How Co-parenting and Custody Breakdown Roles
At some point along the way, I fell behind on my child support payments. I tried to be clear and honest about the situation. I asked for a bit of leeway in how I would repay her. And for whatever reason (I don't think it's healthy or helpful to say what another person is thinking) she felt it was in the best interest of the kids to file our decree with the Attorney General's office.
