All the White Horses Have Already Been Taken: Crisis in Single Parenting
I hope that I am not the cold and distant father that I had. I hope that I have done a better job of staying close even under trying circumstances.
Avoidance Never Works: I Learned About Depression as a Child
I do recover. I am conscious of when I'm avoiding. I still do it, but I'm doing it less. And I'm learning to take the uncomfortable feelings or worry by the horns and looking the damn bull in the eye and saying, "To hell with you, fear, I'm going in!"
The Cut-out Dad
Co-parenting is a joint effort. If one parent no longer shares critical information, there's a problem. November begins the season of holidays and birthdays in my family. Remembering when the…
What I Wish My Ex-wife Knew
I've given up imagining that my words or actions can change her in any way. We'd like to think we can make another person happy, or comfortable, or secure. Unfortunately, we cannot.
Custody Should Be a Collaborative Term
If you are getting a divorce and you have kids, go for 50/50 parenting or nothing at all. FIGHT for 50/50 parenting and JOINT custody. Do not agree to be…
For Hire: Used Husband, Classic Model, Works Well With Kids
And so, I've been girlfriend free since the end of the summer and it's fine. I'd rather not be. But I'd rather be alone that coping with another person's major emotional distress. I don't need drama or high theater.
Lessons of an Old Dog: Parenting, Divorce & Codependency
For the last years of his life, my buddy will do whatever he does as an old dog. I will watch him zigzagging around the back yard and try to remain happy for him rather than sad for him. I will love on him as much as I can. And I'll be aware of how my emotional attachments and complaints are mine alone. He's a dog.
8 Lessons from My First 2 Divorces
It seems the biggest marker for success is the general outlook of the other person: Happy camper vs. unhappy camper. In my second marriage I thought we had a match, but the stress and change brought on by having kids sort of flipped her mode.
