Burning Down the House of Love and Hope
In the final moments of my marriage, in couple's therapy, as we were parting with our therapist, he asked for us to give closing summaries of where we were with…
What I Learned From My First and Second Marriages
You learn a lot by getting married. You also learn a lot by getting divorced. While I was really ready to exit my first, abusive, marriage, I was also devastated…
Continuing Forgiveness As a Single Parent
If I can approach the day with hope, openness, and optimism, I'm sure my joy will continue to bring joy to others. Yesterday I got an email from the person…
The New Dance of Anger: Men and Our Legacy (part 2)
This is PART TWO. The first part is here: Men and Our Anger Issues: The New Dance of Anger ONE: We all learn about anger at a very young age.…
Men and Our Anger Issues: The New Dance of Anger (part 1)
I remember reading The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships during my first marriage to a rage-enabled Basque woman. She was less than 100…
What Turns a Hot Marriage Cold? The One Word Answer.
Speak your expectations and disappointments. Find agreements that you can both live with. But agreements are not meant to change a person's fundamental personality. I wasn't concerned, therefore, aware of a lot of the chores and details of house management, or lawn management. So I went along my merry way thinking things were peachy, until I was told they were not.
Super Judo Warrior Dad in Divorce
It's not easy to talk about money. Even when you are married to the other person, often there are disagreements and frustrations about money and how you handle it. When…
The Money After Divorce Manifesto: A Neverending Story
Suffering under massive financial hardship due to the initial divorce decree can be important for your survival and ability to thrive in your new life. Sure, you're going to court, but you had to do this in some form before to get divorced, and if it's absolutely necessary, at least make it as non-confrontational as possible.
