Seeking and Defining *Deep Love*
If enthusiasm and authentic affection open the connection, what are the things that will keep our fires burning bright and burning in concert with one another?
Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.
For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”
- Seven Signs of a Healthy Post-Breakup Relationship
- Big 5 Relationship Questions to Answer Before You Start Dating Again
- How Do You Radiate? Becoming the Lover You Are Looking For
- Bumble Me Stumble Me, Show Me the Perfect Match Today
- Reframing Sex and Intimacy: Men & Women Differ In Desire
I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.
We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.
Understanding the Chemicals of Love, Lust, and Attachment
And, as far as I can plan, I'm planning to go with my lover. Even my aspirational goals consider her. Happiness is far better when shared.
Building A New Relationship
How could I construct a partnership, from the second date onward, with intention, transparency, and hope?
Going Deep Into Dating, Relationships, and Finding a Partner
Announcing the Deep Dive Podcast of The Whole Parent. Free discussions about the most important articles on The Whole Parent.
Dating is a Journey Until You Reach Your Destination
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Know what you want. Know what you offer. Don't oversell. And for fks sake: DO NOT SETTLE.
The Hierarchy of Relationship Needs: Four Levels of Attraction
I will not settle for average and I hope you will not either. Average will get you down the road a bit, but it's not the lasting relationship you are looking for. That's one of the reasons dating can be difficult. We don't want to be alone so we might go on a lot of average dates.
Adjusting My Viewpoint: Online Dating
the horror of online dating
Don't give up. Keep positive. Learn to express your wants and needs, and understand why they are two different things.
The Hot Hot Heat Test: Dating 2.0 Bring the Heat
When sex enters a relationship everything changes and your thinking is going to be challenged for 6 months to a year. Don't trust your thoughts during this period. Don't make any big decisions together. If you get to two red flags, again, BOLT.