A Near Miss Hurts Both Lovers: Relationship-Building Failure
We still have an occasional text, but it's been radio silence. And I am moving along, working to establish a new WE.
Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.
For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”
I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.
We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.
We still have an occasional text, but it's been radio silence. And I am moving along, working to establish a new WE.
If Bumble is successful you stay hopeful and keep paying them for the extras. If you are successful a partner will take you offline off their quota.
Well, the main reason a woman makes the first swipe is she is not getting enough action on her profile. Um, probably not a great fit.
Romantic poet me wants to believe in happily ever after, but I'm more skeptical today. How do you feel about dating again?
What I've noticed about myself and my multiple attempts at finding a lasting, evolving, and ecstatic relationship is that each element is important.
What I've noticed about myself and my multiple attempts at finding a lasting, evolving, and ecstatic relationship is that each element is important.
As I pause to review my last fourteen years as a single dad I am not in a hurry to begin a new summit attempt with a new person.
Let's meet out there in the real world, have a conversation, and let go of the rest of our expectations.