If I am genuinely looking for a relationship and not just a date, then my concept of holding out for resonance becomes more critical. I've had a resonant partner once before. I know how that feels and how transformative that can be for both people. Anything less than that is a distraction.
I'm developing a relationship with myself and I will eventually believe that I am loveable. And so will you. And anyone that takes that glow away from you is not worthy of your gifts.
If my friend is staying in the "dating" and "fooling around" mode, he's not going to gain any long-term insights.
And, as far as I can plan, I'm planning to go with my lover. Even my aspirational goals consider her. Happiness is far better when shared.
"That was amazing. I really loved the way you placed my hands and let me know you were going to come. I'm not worried about my orgasm. I'm happy to keep my fires stoked for the next encounter." Figuring sex out together.
As humans, we have the opportunity to get better at sex. To get more of what we want from our partnership.
When you aspire too much for someone too beautiful you might be getting off track for what’s important in your life.
Only through learning from past mistakes will you be able to evolve into the dating partner you want to become.