Self-care takes many forms. What we know, is most of us do not take enough time off. We drink coffee to fuel our days and interrupt our nights. Self-care is the process of unwinding ourselves from the rat race and giving our bodies and our souls time to recharge, play, and be quiet.
I want what is best for my physical and mental health. I also want to perform my work at a high level. I take advantage of every opportunity to make a positive adjustment to my energetic trajectory.
Let's align around all the things that can help, and do ALL OF THEM. Why not? What do you have to lose? 5-minutes a day? Go for it.
The more efficient you get at processing these blips of emotion or moods, the easier it becomes to live in the space between the incoming brain broadcast, and the easier it becomes to remain in the present moment.
It's not about the science of parenting and divorce. It's not "in the best interest of the children." It's about MONEY.
This might have spelled the end more clearly than I understood. She didn't want sex. She fought about sex. She complained about how I asked for sex. She always got off when we had sex, but she had started not-caring about the LOVE in the experience. And that was a deal killer, both in the moment and in our marriage.
If you navigate a positive divorce, perhaps it will be happier and better for everyone. Plan for happiness and build a parenting schedule that will value BOTH mom and dad equally.
Get your skeleton identified and well-scrubbed. Bring them out in the light of day. Work out your fears and frustrations. And then walk free of their unhealthy influence.
I believe if you parented together you should continue that loving and inclusive process even if you're no longer married to one another.