Love is the core skill and core need we all have. Many of us grew up in homes where love was conditional. If you behave this way I will love you. If you go against my wishes, I will exclude you from my love. This is not how love works. Love is universal energy, either you’re tapped into it and give it freely, or you are lacking in love.

Standing Strong Together: Boundaries and Relationships in the #METOO Era

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The dragon is your friend. The drama is your weakness. In using this process your blindspots become known dragons and can be tamed and befriended. You can then proceed to walk through life more like a dragon rider.

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A Good Dad’s Guide to Divorce – Now Available

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And with children, the divorce is never final, your relationship to the other parent goes on as long as your kids are alive. You never get over your divorce, but you can get through it.

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Empty Nest Syndrome: How a Typical Divorce Affects Fathers Differently

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The sad part is my kids don't get much of me and my happiness. They get something less than joyful, most of the time. I can see it and feel it in them. But there's no amount of money or grief that can bring back those lost years. Today, there is only "Where do I go from here as a good dad?"

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Becoming a Healthier Co-parent by Releasing Your Ex

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Bless your co-parent just as they are. Let go of your expectations about co-parenting. Then parent as best you can. Release everyone, even yourself, from the expectations and dreams you had of a wonderful co-parenting relationship.

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What Went Down: Divorce is Not Kind. Co-parenting is a Myth.

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Two people agree to have kids and a huge shift happens in their lives and their future together. You are committing to a lifetime of connection with this person, even as you are agreeing to bring new dependants onto the planet. It's a massive transition, this becoming a parent. Deciding to divorce your co-parent is another huge shift.

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Co-parenting Struggles: Withholding the Joy of Your Kids

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I wonder, someday, will they ask how the divorce happened? Will my adult kids want to know who's idea it was to break up our family? These are conversations I could never have with them unless they asked.

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