The Beleaguered Single Mother
I don't know much about how my ex-wife dealt with the divorce and her recovery from the breakup of our family. I do know she got the lion's share of…
A Radical Approach to Joy
Joy is different from happiness. Happiness is fleeting. Joy is innate. I believe we have set points, but not of happiness, of joy. I know that even in moments of…
Tapping Into the Sadness Underneath My Recent Losses
I lost my brother and my lover in the same week. Ouch. Neither of them were completely unexpected. That does not diminish the sorrow and pain that both events caused…
Beautiful Women and Refactoring My Approach to Love
What is love? It seems to be a feeling, but I've seen feelings fall apart and love go with it. I think, it's more likely, that love is an intentional…
Sex Without Desire Is More Like Porn Than Lovemaking
Maybe the term lovemaking actually does have a deeper meaning. In looking into the eyes of someone you are making love to, you want to see them looking back, and…
Evolved Dating: Driven in the Non-linear World of Relationships
Relationships don't follow a straight path. As I have rejoined the single-and-seeking world of online dating, I am more conscious of what is working and what is broken in the…
Learning from the Hits and Misses of My Last Relationship
"We tried. We are different. We love each other enough to let it go." There is so much to celebrate about my last relationship, I don't know where to start.…
Dating Lessons: All This Swiping Feels a Bit Demeaning
"Go slow. Friends before lovers. There is no hurry. Pause before responding. Let them experience the chase for a bit as well." Swipe. Swipe. Swipe. That's all you've got to…
