When Divorce Negotiations Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
Love is the core skill and core need we all have. Many of us grew up in homes where love was conditional. If you behave this way I will love you. If you go against my wishes, I will exclude you from my love. This is not how love works. Love is universal energy, either you’re tapped into it and give it freely, or you are lacking in love.
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
It is not our job to fix broken relationships or broken people. Our job is to show up in the arena of a relationship and do the best we possibly can to love and be loved.
It is critical to articulate what you want in a partner. Then, stick to it. Don't settle for average.
Show you love your partner by putting them first. Give them your time. Give them your attention and mini-connections throughout the day.
i am not completely certain that you are not a dream or that i have not lost my mind as i lean into your arms a feeling as clean as…
Listen to your body. If you are feeling sad, check in with someone else. If you notice your overall vibe heading towards the black hole, take all necessary evasive actions.
Let's talk about sex with our partners. Let's be patient with them when they are growing and stretching into a new partnership. Being vulnerable is the biggest key to letting your sexual energy grow and strengthen your relationship.
When you are waiting for the other person to change (at any stage of a relationship or marriage) it might be time for you to move on.