Co-parenting Struggles: Withholding the Joy of Your Kids
My ex-wife and I don't talk anymore. That's how she's laid it out. With every email or text I wrote asking for a join or a meeting to discuss our…
A Pleasant First Date and the Change of Seasons Arrives
In the spaces between relationships, we get to know ourselves again. It is a "rainy days and Mondays" kind of a day here. I'm feeling the feels. And aware of…
Dads: When Family Courts Start at 70 – 30 Custody, the Kids Lose
When we started down the road of negotiating a cooperative divorce (because it's all about the children) our divorce and parenting plan counselor also suggested 70-30.
The Beauty Trap: How Good Looks Can Lead Us Astray
I am full of desire. And when I don't have an object for my affection I project that romance on to everyone who passes by. My first two marriages were…
When Everything Goes Right: Do You Have a Dating Roadmap?
What does it look like when you are happy? What are you doing? Not to mirror my current situation (idle and a bit bored with the online dating app world)…
The Hierarchy of Relationship Needs: My Four Levels of Attraction
As the online dating universe continues to be ho-hum for me, I'm continually wondering what it takes for someone to light up my relationship antennae. It seems to me there are…
Sexual Hunger: How Friends with Benefits Became a Lie for Me
Yes, we are sexual animals. And from time to time I imagine doing the dating thing with more of a "hookup" mentality. It won't work. I tried having a FWB…
Going Meta: Divorce, Depression, and Befriending Sadness
I am a feeling-driven person. My moods can drive ecstatic highs of creativity and pull me into lows of lethargy and inertia. There's no amount of lamenting that's going to…
