humans of divorce

Getting In The Last Word/Text “Whatever”

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 3, 2024
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

In middle school my daughter would often call me during the school day saying she could not reach her mom, or get a call back, for something required for a field trip. I would make the call.

My Angry Ex-Wife and Her Ongoing Malfunctions

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 2, 2024
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

I can take a break from her blasting texts. I can hold my boundary. I will try again tomorrow. That's usually my mantra.

The 5 Stages of Dating Again After Divorce: Letting Go of Expectations

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 31, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex

I'm not all that good at dating yet. I mean, I don't really know how to BE. I try to be "myself" of course, but I'm too involved, too hyper, too talkative. I don't listen as well as I should. But the part of the problem, that I'm just beginning to understand, is my habit of projecting any "potential" relationship off into some imaginary future. What I mean is, I sometimes have a problem staying present.

How Does True Love Unfold? The Early Harbingers of YES

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 27, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Only through adventuring together, only through giving it a 100% shot and not holding back, are we capable of discovering a partner who is willing and capable of going there with us.

Bad Daddy and the Delicious Breakfast Dilemma (A Single-Parent Fable)

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 19, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Parenting Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Upstairs another door flew open and dapper son Badly Buzy Ben announced, "Breakfast? What's for breakfast?" as he stomped down the stairs. His hair was perfectly done and his suit looked freshly pressed. The blue tie matching and shining in concert with his pocket square.

How Long Should Your Partner Stay Mad?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 15, 2024
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

When anger is quick and easily resolved the issues don't stick around much. Try and process the little anger while it is happening. Try and take the BIG ANGER offline, out of the relationship for a moment, and come back with some ideas of how to do things differently.

Responsible Separation Is Harder than it Sounds

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 7, 2024
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I was lead to believe that the kids needed their mom more than me, that a mom's love is somehow superior, or more comforting than a dad's love.

A Few Small Repairs: Solving and Celebrating Misconnections in Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 4, 2024
Post category:Anger Dating humans of divorce Joy Love Relationships Self-care

Stay in the moment. When one of you feels a disturbance in the force, speak up. Ask for the repair. Illuminate the differences and the misconnections that occurred. And set some ideas, goals, phrases, that can remind you in the future when I similar situation or disconnection happens.