Black and White Thinking: Looking At the Darkness of Divorce
It is only by recovery that we stop the pattern of abuse, neglect, infidelity, and other love destroyers.
Divorce is a cruel storm. If we could see our ex-partners as humans rather than combatants, we could begin to heal the pain. We’re in this together, no matter how it turns out. Humans of Divorce are people who are doing their best in spite of the negative actions of their co-parent.
It is only by recovery that we stop the pattern of abuse, neglect, infidelity, and other love destroyers.
You deserve a great life. You deserve a huge bonfire of love and happiness. The Sparks are right inside you. The kindling of your life and the power of your attention are all you need to light your fire. Light it.
I attempted to give hope to struggling families, hope to divorced and lonely people and a few simple practices of mindfulness.
Infidelity and "fuck you" are too close to my history for me to enjoy them as jokes.
I like to be on top of the world, as most of us do, but I haven't done very well in the past when I sink into "maintenance mode" rather than aspirational mode. What I learned from my last stumble is that I AM MY OWN WORST ENEMY.
Finding the balance in our lives requires self-awareness and the discipline, time, and energy to carry out our creative plans.
The thrill of getting to a second date... Well, don't blow it. Just be cool. Don't lead to fast or too far. Take your signals from your date. Listen intently for emotional intelligence. Are they telling stories about past relationships, or future ideas, or work, or working out?
As a co-parent to a narcissistic is has not been easy. In most of the negotiations, I was given no chance to be on top.