Divorce is a cruel storm. If we could see our ex-partners as humans rather than combatants, we could begin to heal the pain. We’re in this together, no matter how it turns out. Humans of Divorce are people who are doing their best in spite of the negative actions of their co-parent.

The Four Laws of Love: Finding & Building Lasting Relationships

That's where love lives: in finding, holding, and building the flame of love in our hearts and in our partner's hearts every day of our lives together.

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Love Is Bigger Than Anything In Its Way: Optimism and Hope Carry Us

People will do what they want to do. Love will not push a partner into doing something they don't want to do. That's not love, that's codependency.

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Avoiding the Vengeance Dating Syndrome: Get Healthy Before Dating

I was having a hard time maintaining a healthy relationship with myself, why would I want to bring someone else into my fractured life? I answered my own frustration by shutting down all of my profiles.

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An Intentional First Date Starts with a Kiss: Episode 7 of Love on the Air

"Taking a year to really work on me, and be happy with me..." As Richard rebuilt a house in the Zilker area of Austin, Texas, he was aware of how the house was a metaphor of his self-recovery process. "I worked on the entryway of me. And then I had to work on the inside. I need to open up space, and make space for somebody."

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Episode 4: “Something Is Emerging.” A Loving Conversation with Mark Greene

Come listen to an interesting conversation about masculinity, about relationships, about relationship capacity and emotional growth. Our conversation follows Mark from his experience as a man in a failing marriage, through his self-awareness process, and finally his homecoming in a long-term healthy relationship. We're going to talk about a lot of things, but at the heart is how we find and co-create a relationship with a partner. 

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The Soft Return: How *Repair* Works in Relationships

If I believe in a higher plan, if I want to navigate with star maps and not treasure maps, then I can be IN LOVE and AT PEACE even in this painful pause. The pain has a lesson for me. I may learn something new every morning and every evening. I am learning.

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Patience, Mindfulness, and the Slow Road to a Healthy Relationship

My movie is undergoing a serious rewrite at the moment. Scenes are being deleted, edited, and new actors are being sought out for both lead and supporting roles. Today, on this amazingly beautiful day (from snow last night to tennis in shorts this afternoon) I'm going to loaf for a bit.

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