Divorce Archives

Divorce, once mentioned, is a slippery and difficult journey. As you pull apart the lives you’ve built together, there will be anger, resentment, frustration, and even joy, and ecstasy. But the divorce is hard on everyone. Listen for who needs support and then give your love and attention. Always.

POSITIVE DIVORCE (is a concept, an alignment, an intention I use as I go through life as a single dad.)

Divorce is one of the most disorienting events in my life. Everything was lost. I have made a point of trying to turn the bad points into positive information. I am here support you as best I can to lessen the impact on your children. Divorce is the beginning of a new journey. You can make it better for everyone by paying attention to what matters. Your anger at your ex needs to be handled on your own.

Putting Your Divorce in Context, For Yourself and the Kids

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Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 10, 2013
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Single-Dad

There are a lot of details to work out. And rushing into that process while throwing your kids and current family structure under the bus is not a good idea.

The Cadence of Co-Parenting; Staying Close After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 7, 2013
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

There are not fewer things to coordinate when you become a single parent, in fact, there are more. The things you once traded equitably, now fall 100% in your lap when it is your parenting time. This new cadence can be jarring, frustrating, and make for some upset campers on all sides unless you plan ahead and go 100% Positive.

Finding the Happy Side of Difficult Divorce Street – FLIP IT

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 1, 2013
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

There is no time like the present to flip your anger into absurd, cackling, fake laughter. It's a known fact that your physical body doesn't really know the difference between real laughter and fake laughter. So if you give a big ol' Pee Wee Herman laugh, your body really thinks you are laughing. The endorphins and physical joy comes back into your system, fires up the happy side of your brain, and can bring you part of the way back to center.

Co-parenting Is Not Always Easy, But We Have a Choice

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 25, 2013
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Self-care Single-Dad

So much of co-parenting is about negotiation and compromise. We no longer have the same loving emotional ties to our former partners. We no longer have to make their urgency and priorities our own.

The Divorce Ahead, Go Slow, Breathe

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 23, 2013
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

There will be time for anger. There will be moments when anger is the only way you can find to stand up for what you believe to be right. But the rest is up to you.

A Return to Wholeness After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 21, 2013
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

In divorce, when you lose everything, what you still have is your kids. And while you are deep into the recovery of your own feelings, paying attention and parenting from a place of wholeness is critical.