Anger

Anger is a healthy emotion.

When you feel anger, what you do with the excess energy is all-important. Harness your anger to move towards your goals and dreams. Anger at ex-partners, anger at the state of the world, anger at a shitty manager, each is like little charging station to increase your blood pressure. Use that pressure to move your plans forward. Don’t look back in regret. Leave those people in the dust. Anger informs your soul. Listen to what hurts. And then, learn to move forward out of what is making you angry towards things that make you happy.

Suppressed anger leads to health issues, depression, rage, and addiction. By building a healthy response to your anger, you can begin to move your life towards happiness and contentment. Your anger towards someone else is YOUR issue. Let it go. Move onward and upward.

Toxic anger is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. It’s only going to make you sick. Unresolved anger is not good for you or any of the people around you. Let go of your anger. Use anger for good.

in the clear : a poem

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 12, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Joy Love Poetry Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

in seconds our bubbles drifted apart there was no pop sound no resistance a breeze from the east pushed me outward towards the ocean's edge the sun was peeking over…

When You Are Able to Ask For What You Want & Let It Go

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 8, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

But if you're ignoring numero uno, by not taking care of your needs, your health, your sleep, your boundaries, the crash will come for you. You cannot drink enough coffee or take enough anti-depressants to correct a lack of self-care.

Dating a Single Dad and Learning to Love His Kids

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 5, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

Dating a single parent can be a lot like struggling with a toddler. They punch you in the eye, spill juice in your bed, and say, "I love you SOOO much."

Making Your Partner a Priority; Where Do You Want to Be?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 10, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

If you find yourself thinking or saying, I'd be happy if you'd just... You need to get over the request and focus on yourself. If NOTHING CHANGES, would you be able to stay in this relationship? If the answer is no, you've got work todo.

The Power of Saying No: Making Self-Care a Priority Now

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I am making plans to say no more often. I will listen to my heart more often, I will pause before making difficult decisions, I will pause and check in with my body frequently throughout the day.

Love Is Bigger Than Anything In Its Way: Optimism and Hope Carry Us

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 26, 2020
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

People will do what they want to do. Love will not push a partner into doing something they don't want to do. That's not love, that's codependency.

Avoiding the Vengeance Dating Syndrome: Get Healthy Before Dating

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 24, 2020
Post category:Anger Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

I was having a hard time maintaining a healthy relationship with myself, why would I want to bring someone else into my fractured life? I answered my own frustration by shutting down all of my profiles.

There Is No Rescue Coming For You – Love on the Air Episode 3

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:February 7, 2020
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

We cannot rescue another person. We should not try. We can stand beside them, or just outside the perimeter of their burning building, and let them know we are holding loving-kindness for them. It's painful, to be in the gap. But sometimes, it's just where we are.