Anger

Anger is a healthy emotion.

When you feel anger, what you do with the excess energy is all-important. Harness your anger to move towards your goals and dreams. Anger at ex-partners, anger at the state of the world, anger at a shitty manager, each is like little charging station to increase your blood pressure. Use that pressure to move your plans forward. Don’t look back in regret. Leave those people in the dust. Anger informs your soul. Listen to what hurts. And then, learn to move forward out of what is making you angry towards things that make you happy.

Suppressed anger leads to health issues, depression, rage, and addiction. By building a healthy response to your anger, you can begin to move your life towards happiness and contentment. Your anger towards someone else is YOUR issue. Let it go. Move onward and upward.

Toxic anger is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. It’s only going to make you sick. Unresolved anger is not good for you or any of the people around you. Let go of your anger. Use anger for good.

Present Tense: Co-Parenting Disconnected

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 9, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Sure, you can lean into your kids' anger about the divorce. But your role as a parent is to help them separate their emotions from your emotions. Your anger has infused their entire lives.

My Transformational Divorce: The 4 Stages of Divorce Recovery

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 7, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Love mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Everything that happened from the moment my then-wife said she’d been to see a lawyer, has delivered me up to be healed in a way that would not have been possible had we stayed together.

Therapy vs Life Coaching: Two Different Processes & Goals

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 4, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I work with men and women who are looking to reset their priorities in life to align more with their long-term goals. What's keeping you from achieving your dreams? What parts of your life need attention?

Resetting Your Priorities in the New Year as a Single Parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 3, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Here's what I know. My ex-wife has nothing to do with my happiness or success. My positive approach to life is how I show up for my kids. They are watching us. They are learning from our actions. How we deal with hard times will inform and set their own internal compass for later in life as they run into challenges.

Who Am I To Be Telling Anyone About Healthy Relationships?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 2, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I simply let go and pay little or no attention to the things that are out of my control. What I have control over, I manage with greater joy and energy.

What We Know About Healing Trauma and Our Innate Ability to Thrive

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 20, 2021
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

You can start on your own. Write about your early childhood traumas. What are the things that hurt you? What things happened with no adult around to give you safety and comfort? Today, your writing and speaking can re-experience this event with a new more holistic experience.

Orbiting a Dying Star: My Father the Alcoholic

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 20, 2021
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

As I continue my quest to be a healthier and happier parent, I can give my kids my own stories. I can share the adventures I've been on. I can hear their stories and not pass judgment. I am glad my daughter trusts me to share all the ways she's diving into the drinking culture.

Why Some Fathers Give Up After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 18, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Health and Fitness Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Yes, kids are expensive, but they should be equally shared as an expense and as a joy. This 70/30 split is bullshit. It's demeaning to fathers. And it's based on a parenting concept from the 50's. Sure it makes it easier on the courts if everyone just goes with the plan. But don't. If you want the time with your kids, fight for it.