Anger

Anger is a healthy emotion.

When you feel anger, what you do with the excess energy is all-important. Harness your anger to move towards your goals and dreams. Anger at ex-partners, anger at the state of the world, anger at a shitty manager, each is like little charging station to increase your blood pressure. Use that pressure to move your plans forward. Don’t look back in regret. Leave those people in the dust. Anger informs your soul. Listen to what hurts. And then, learn to move forward out of what is making you angry towards things that make you happy.

Suppressed anger leads to health issues, depression, rage, and addiction. By building a healthy response to your anger, you can begin to move your life towards happiness and contentment. Your anger towards someone else is YOUR issue. Let it go. Move onward and upward.

Toxic anger is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. It’s only going to make you sick. Unresolved anger is not good for you or any of the people around you. Let go of your anger. Use anger for good.

In All Cases Be Kind, Unless You Can’t Then Be Assertive

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 29, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

There is a fine line in relationships between being passive, being assertive, and being aggressive. Even in each of these three energies, you can be kind.

In the Birthday Cake of the Present Moment You Have Three Choices

life is a three-layered cake - john mcelhenney

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 26, 2021
Post category:Anger Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If we can rise above our present distress and the distractions of our disappointments, we can appreciate all the layers of the present moment. It's all cake. It may not all be delicious. But our attitude about the cake colors every one of our present moments. It's our attitude about the cake we're being served that gives us the freedom from suffering.

Graveyard Whistling: Why Do I Have to Breakup 3 Times to Let Go?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 20, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

I need to learn to listen when the woman says, "I am really not looking to be in a relationship."

Understanding My Co-parent’s Malfunction: My Easy Indifference

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 3, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Love Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

Our kids are doing fine, in spite of your brutally selfish and vindictive actions. I release you and your partner to live in peace with an easy indifference.

Facing My Personal Dragon: Depression

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:October 28, 2021
Post category:Anger Depression Divorce Health and Fitness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

The dragon, my depression, is with me. He's not going anywhere. And to fight him is to fight and destroy myself. So instead, I'm going to love and befriend this dragon.

What Good Is Love If…

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 30, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Depression Joy Love Married Life mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care

Love can heal your soul. Love can rip your soul apart. It is up to us to put our hearts back together and try again. If you learn each time you fail at love, you can get closer to finding and building a sustainable and loving relationship.

Time, The Currency of Modern Relationships: Either You Have It To Give

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:September 26, 2021
Post category:Anger Dating Divorce relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to "go for" in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.

Everything is Beautiful and Painful: Top Three Relationship Rules

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 30, 2021
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

When I was younger and my parents began to struggle with a long protracted divorce, I begged for Jesus/God to help them stay together. I prayed all the time for my dad to stop killing himself with alcohol and cigarettes.