Spirituality

Count Me In: Timing in Love IS Critical

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 30, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad Spirituality

The timing for me is perfect for dating and learning to love again. Really love. Go deep with trust, with conscious connection, and absolutely enjoying our time together.

Seeking a Friend for the End of the World: On Soulmates & Lovers

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 30, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The final part of finding the love of your life, is to let go of all other relationships. Do not compromise in your love life. Any little miss in your present moment will become a roadblock in the future.

The Company You Keep and Keeping Your Own Company

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 25, 2022
Post category:Depression Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I can ask to be loved. I may not feel loved even when love is abundant and specific. I might still miss some aspect of being loved. I might not feel loved, even in the presence of love. And, I can want someone else to meet my needs for love and connection, while not doing a very good job of being clear about what I need. Today, I didn't ask anyone. Today, I took care of my desire to go to the beach. September might not be summer, but it's beachy enough for me and my inner smile.

Closer to the Edge: Fractures In Our Communication Skills

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 25, 2022
Post category:Anger Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

As we continue to go for a lifetime lover, we've got to be prepared to learn, study, grow, stretch, and reach back to our lovers for the REPAIR. Either partner can go for the repair. And both partners should work towards the repair, even if the bridge is collapsed in smoldering ruins.

Slipping Into the Dance: A Relationship with Promise and Reserve

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 21, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

The immediate plan is to continue growing, learning, and communicating with an ever-evolving sense of security and trust. Then, don't start talking about rings, living together, and retirement, until you've had a chance to go through at least one cycle of the seasons.

Falling Out of The Loop As a Single Parent

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 20, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

My role now is very similar to my non-custodial dad role. I don't have a lot of time or opportunities to engage with my kids. I have to reach out. Keep reaching out. And let go of any outcome.

This Creative Life: A Lifelong Adventure into The Artist’s Way

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 19, 2022
Post category:mindfulness Poetry self-awareness Self-care Spirituality

Don't let a single idea pass unnoticed. If you can capture the essence of the idea in some form, some shorthand version of your vision, then capture it. If you can stop everything else you are doing and allow the creative gift to come through you, do it. Stop. Listen. Create.

The Single Dad Afterglow: I Lost My Kids In the Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:March 17, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

The loss of my kids as a 30% dad was not my choice. The ongoing bs of resentment and entitlement was not about me. My ex-wife's anger and resentment, here 11-years later, is 100% self-inflicted.