Single-Dad

Becoming a single dad was one of the most traumatic events of my life. I did not want the divorce, I fought against the divorce, and ultimately I agreed to collaborative divorce and was taken to the cleaners by an ex who decided to go for the “divorce package” rather than honor our 50/50 shared parenting agreement.

My Kids and How Dads Don’t Give Up After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:January 11, 2023
Post category:Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

It's not about the science of parenting and divorce. It's not "in the best interest of the children." It's about MONEY.

Divorce Happy

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 22, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If you navigate a positive divorce, perhaps it will be happier and better for everyone. Plan for happiness and build a parenting schedule that will value BOTH mom and dad equally.

Do You Realize? Single Parenting Challenges and Little Victories

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 20, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

I believe if you parented together you should continue that loving and inclusive process even if you're no longer married to one another.

Why Entitlements In Divorce Are Abusive

my daughter a few years after the divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 17, 2022
Post category:burn Co-Parenting Dating Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad

Marriage and parenting start at 50/50. Divorce should start at 50/50 without child support, and negotiate from there.

Attachment Parenting Benefits Begin To Fracture After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:December 5, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Parenting Single-Dad

Attachment parenting is the way to go. One parent, weaponizing the divorce, can do untold damage to the kids.

We Are Always Letting Go of Our Children

My daughter, dog, and friend

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 25, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Parenting self-awareness Single-Dad

It's hard to let them go. It's hard not to complain about their lack of response. But, the way forward is love and enthusiasm without strings.

This Should’ve Been Us: Regrets and Love Lost on the Quest

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:November 18, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

I have a reverence of my moods these days. I am no longer beholden to them. I can love these former lovers and still do nothing to reach out to them. I am pointed in a healthier and happier dream now.