In spite of the anger and questionable choices, the kids are all right.
Finding the Positive Side of Divorce
This is the ninja trick that saved me a lot of anguish after my divorce. Yes, you may have less time with your kids, that’s true. And, you also have more time for yourself. Your development. Your passions. Your life *beyond* being a parent. There is a great big life out here as a single parent, don’t sweat the small stuff, get on with your best life after divorce.
A few things to remember:
- Remember how hard it was to get ONE night off when you were married? Solved.
- Remember your ambition to be a writer or a songwriter or a champion tennis player? Get on with it.
- Remember your kids are the priority when you are with them. Give them 110% of you when they are with you. You can rest when they are gone.
- By responding to the divorce in a positive way, you’re showing your kids how to handle adversity later in life. Show them how to be happy in spite of the setback.
- Reassure your kids how much you love and miss them. It’s okay to miss your kids. It’s also okay to let them know.
- Finally a somewhat snarky idea: your ex is merely a high-paid babysitter who works for you.
Here are a few of my articles that can set you on a positive path if you’re heading for or in the middle of a divorce journey. Take care, and let me know how I can help.
- START HERE: Transformational Divorce
- 10 Positive Thoughts for You About Your Upcoming Divorce
- Dads That Don’t Give Up After Divorce
- Divorce Survival Kit: Keep Moving Forward, Stay Positive
- A Healthy Co-Parenting Plan: Hope for the Recently Divorced Parent
- How the Whole Parent Got His Groove Back After Divorce
- A Quick-Start Guide for the Divorcing Dad: The Off Times
And the mother of all single-parent posts:
If you can remove your emotional attachment to your ex you can begin to heal and move into your next chapter. The best years are ahead of you. I say this to my kids all the time. “We may not have had all the time we wanted together when you were younger, but we’ve got a lot of living ahead of us. Let’s make the most of it.”
back to The Positive Divorce