Divorce is a cruel storm. If we could see our ex-partners as humans rather than combatants, we could begin to heal the pain. We’re in this together, no matter how it turns out. Humans of Divorce are people who are doing their best in spite of the negative actions of their co-parent.
As I learn more about my personal investment in threads, and my reluctance to let go of an elevated connection, I am better able to manage my own interactions, my own energy, and my own decisive disconnection of a golden thread.
I am here. I am alone. I am desirous of a new relationship. I also have a lot of creative projects spinning up, at the moment.
The only real work for me, today, is to take care of my own recovery, my own addictive tendencies, my own spiritual, emotional, and physical relationships.
Give me something you're truly joyful about. Let me lean into it with you. Even if I don't get it. Let me watch your glowup when you talk about your "project."
We still have an occasional text, but it's been radio silence. And I am moving along, working to establish a new WE.
Romantic poet me wants to believe in happily ever after, but I'm more skeptical today. How do you feel about dating again?
Let's meet out there in the real world, have a conversation, and let go of the rest of our expectations.
When we get dark and cannot see the way forward, we need people who are reaching out to us, connecting with us, even when we're feeling good and not reaching out to them. We need friends along the path.