Dating

Dating is like a gateway drug. You’ve got to “date” in order to find a partner. If you are not clear on what you want in a relationship, dating is going to bring you a lot of people who are not ready, not available, and not very evolved. The goal of dating is to find someone to love.

For some, online dating is the gateway to finding someone who is outside of our normal spheres of influence. The first step is introductions. Then a few dates to see if you’re still compatible. And at some point, you’re going to declare each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. At that point, you are officially dating. Everything up to that is courtship and “hello dates.”

I’ve had success with online dating. I also see much of the online activity as a waste of time. If you’re not going out on “hello dates” you’re really just playing at the idea of dating. Find me somebody to love. Let’s get to a first date and see where things go. We can’t get to relationships unless we are testing and trying things while dating.

We want to keep improving with each dating experience. It takes time. There will be hits and misses along the dating journey. If you have a strategy you can work the dating system quicker to find better matches.

Love at the Speed of Text or Tinder or … f a s t

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Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 31, 2015
Post category:Dating Love Relationships Sex Single-Dad

In my experience striking for the NEW TO MATCH folks is a good idea. They say all of the good ones are taken, and perhaps the really good ones are snapped up quickly.

Can You Love Yourself As Much As You Desire Someone Else?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 15, 2015
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

I still want to get in better shape. I want my health to be an advantage in my older days. I want my kids to look up to me, and know that they are still several years from being able to beat me on the tennis court, or sprinting across any random field we come upon. I want my kids, but mainly myself, to be proud of me.

How Love Transforms Us Completely When We Feel the YES

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 9, 2015
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Divorce Health and Fitness Love Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

With this woman, I have established my new JOY TRIBE. And my two kids are basking in the renewed joy as well. By showing them what a loving and happy relationship looks like, they can begin modeling their future relationships on healthy patterns.

I Want To Thank You for the Divorce: Moving On to What’s Next

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 5, 2015
Post category:Dating Depression Divorce Health and Fitness Joy Love Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad

It's already sounding snarky to me, but I have to give thanks to the mother of my children for releasing me from a marriage that had grown unbalanced and unhappy.…

Drinking Fuzzy Navels and Spending Time Together Doing Nothing

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 4, 2015
Post category:Dating Drinking Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Third Glass Series

As you eventually become an adult, there are opportunities for self-regulation that begin to define you. For some folks, the casual drink is the indulgence that gives them a warm fuzzy feeling. But again, as we evolve as adults we begin to look beyond the buzz and towards other objectives.

Planning For the Future In Your Relationship

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 28, 2015
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad

Stay focused in the present moment, but do allow yourself to dream and project into the future with your partner. Opening those doors of dreaming together has been a gateway of power for us.

The Third Glass is an Anti-Aphrodisiac for Me

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 17, 2015
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness Relationships Self-care Single-Dad Third Glass Series

The choice to head towards less consciousness on a regular basis is a conscious choice, nonetheless. Decide consciously when are about to fill up your third glass. Talk about the evening with your significant other.

Loving Again as a Single Parent is an Ongoing Leap of Faith

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 31, 2015
Post category:Dating Divorce Love Parenting Relationships Self-care Single-Dad

And as we radiate and recommit, as we lean in towards one another and take the leap of faith towards life-transforming love, we can see the effect our joy is having on our friends and family. And the kids, while still readjusting to our new configuration, are already showing warmth and enthusiasm around our together unit, which now includes a new partner for me.