The more efficient you get at processing these blips of emotion or moods, the easier it becomes to live in the space between the incoming brain broadcast, and the easier it becomes to remain in the present moment.
Anger is a healthy emotion.
When you feel anger, what you do with the excess energy is all-important. Harness your anger to move towards your goals and dreams. Anger at ex-partners, anger at the state of the world, anger at a shitty manager, each is like little charging station to increase your blood pressure. Use that pressure to move your plans forward. Don’t look back in regret. Leave those people in the dust. Anger informs your soul. Listen to what hurts. And then, learn to move forward out of what is making you angry towards things that make you happy.
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Suppressed anger leads to health issues, depression, rage, and addiction. By building a healthy response to your anger, you can begin to move your life towards happiness and contentment. Your anger towards someone else is YOUR issue. Let it go. Move onward and upward.
Toxic anger is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. It’s only going to make you sick. Unresolved anger is not good for you or any of the people around you. Let go of your anger. Use anger for good.
If you don't do the work, you may remain stuck in the past. You may wrestle with the depression and demons of your parent's transgressions and lack of support.
Life coaching is: learning life skills and tools you can use outside of a session.
If you navigate a positive divorce, perhaps it will be happier and better for everyone. Plan for happiness and build a parenting schedule that will value BOTH mom and dad equally.
Get your skeleton identified and well-scrubbed. Bring them out in the light of day. Work out your fears and frustrations. And then walk free of their unhealthy influence.
I believe if you parented together you should continue that loving and inclusive process even if you're no longer married to one another.
Attachment parenting is the way to go. One parent, weaponizing the divorce, can do untold damage to the kids.
The news says men are not interested in getting married anymore. Can you understand why? Want a kid, sure let's have a kid. Marriage? Why?