choosing the positive

Listening To Yourself About Craving, Loneliness, Longing

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 12, 2022
Post category:Dating Relationships self-awareness

And then I did something a bit different: I paid attention to how each of my options felt. I noticed I was not really in need of ice cream. I didn't need anything sweet.

The Beautiful Life/Dating Coach’s Dilemma: Our Reality vs Theirs

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating humans of divorce Relationships self-awareness

Love is a journey. Love is not a soul mate who sweeps you off your feet. Love is a bit more like beauty and the beast. We've got flaws, we've got inner dragons, we've got issues, and we STILL LOVE THE OTHER PERSON.

Defining 5 Love Skills: Moving the Love Languages Into Action

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care

I do rely on Love Languages a lot, but I think we need more than that. We need action and clear commitments to fulfill with our partners. We need to give them the space to miss us. The space to get into their own inner dialogue about dreams and projects. We need to feel our own isolation and how much more vibrant we feel when we are together.

This Very Moment… This Is It… Stop… Smell the Roses… Give Thanks.

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 10, 2022
Post category:Depression Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness Money relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Stay in alignment with your goal. Make sure your goal is aligned with your purpose. And then notice when things are going right for you.

How Do You Suffer the Fools and Jerks in Your Life?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Married Life mindfulness Money Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

She still cannot see how planting discontent on my kids towards me is hurting them more than it's hurting us. She is actively damaging her own relationship with her kids over MONEY.

End of Divorce: Kids Out of House But Ex-Wife Still Playing Games

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 26, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

Today, nearly a year later, I am still a deadbeat dad on the record. Despite several calls to the AG's office and several agreements to resolve and close the child support account, I am still in arrears by $1.39.

Who Are You Writing For?

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:April 18, 2022
Post category:Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

I genuinely believe that family laws are corrupt and need to be reset to start at 50/50 parenting with no child support. I love helping moms understand single dads and how to relate to them.