choosing the positive Archives

A Muse Enters and Leaves

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 1, 2022
Post category:Dating Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy relationship building Relationships self-awareness sexual chemistry Single-Dad

a muse is a near miss. A woman who I can see potential and hope with. A woman that meets some unspoken standards, and fits some magical equation in my heart.

Dear Ex, We Are Different By Design

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 21, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Parenting Self-care Single-Dad

Let's get one thing straight, I am. not the victim of a divorce. I am a survivor of a divorce decree that follows the state guidelines and timelines and gives dads 30% of the time with their kids and 100% of the child support.

Big Love & the Tonic Effect of Being In a Nourishing Relationship

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:June 13, 2022
Post category:Dating Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care Sex sexual chemistry Single-Dad Spirituality

Each day, we just groove. Watching a movie, cooking dinner, walking her dogs, I am happier together with someone who is holding my hand.

In This Moment You Choose: Happy or Resentful

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 31, 2022
Post category:Dating Depression Health and Fitness Love mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad

Pay attention to your mind. When the monkey mind jumps into gear, try and find a moment to observe your thinking, as if you are an observer. Then decide: do I want to continue this runaway train of thought, or should I focus on something that I can actually have an effect on?

Finding Myself and My Body, Again

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 18, 2022
Post category:Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness mindfulness self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

What I need is a radical rethink of myself and a full-court press on fitness as a priority in my life.

Listening To Yourself About Craving, Loneliness, Longing

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 12, 2022
Post category:Dating Relationships self-awareness

And then I did something a bit different: I paid attention to how each of my options felt. I noticed I was not really in need of ice cream. I didn't need anything sweet.

The Beautiful Life/Dating Coach’s Dilemma: Our Reality vs Theirs

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating humans of divorce Relationships self-awareness

Love is a journey. Love is not a soul mate who sweeps you off your feet. Love is a bit more like beauty and the beast. We've got flaws, we've got inner dragons, we've got issues, and we STILL LOVE THE OTHER PERSON.

Defining 5 Love Skills: Moving the Love Languages Into Action

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:May 11, 2022
Post category:Dating Joy Love Married Life relationship building Relationships Self-care

I do rely on Love Languages a lot, but I think we need more than that. We need action and clear commitments to fulfill with our partners. We need to give them the space to miss us. The space to get into their own inner dialogue about dreams and projects. We need to feel our own isolation and how much more vibrant we feel when we are together.