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Dads That Don’t Give Up After Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 28, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Divorce Married Life Money Parenting Single-Dad Spirituality

Sure, I believe my ex wants our kids to be healthy and happy. And somewhere she got in her mind that being the PRIMARY PARENT after the divorce was *in the best interest of the children.*

Supporting Your Disappointment: BRAVING In the Arena of Love

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 24, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Dating Health and Fitness Joy Love mindfulness relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care

When I have done something to disappoint you I will be sad and sorry myself, but it's likely that the opportunity for healing is just below the surface of my triggering action.

Your Self Care Program Can’t Fix What Is Broken In Your Life

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 12, 2022
Post category:Depression Health and Fitness humans of divorce mindfulness self-awareness Self-care

When we get dark and cannot see the way forward, we need people who are reaching out to us, connecting with us, even when we're feeling good and not reaching out to them. We need friends along the path.

Risking Everything In Love: We’re Not Playing Games

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:August 8, 2022
Post category:Dating Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love relationship building Relationships self-awareness Self-care sexual chemistry

BOTH partners need to be willing, have intentionality towards building a sustainable relationship, and then have the TIME to spend building the WE.

The BEST OF The Whole Parent: Single Parenting Guide

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 18, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life mindfulness Parenting self-awareness Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

If we can see and seek the balanced parenting approach we might be able to continue that holistic love even as the marriage comes apart.

Moving from Parenting To Co-parenting: Joining Together In Divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 18, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Depression Divorce Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Self-care Single-Dad Spirituality

But it's the kids who stand to lose the most from this imbalanced systemic approach. Dad is more than money. And mom is capable of making just as much money (let's table the fair pay discussion for the moment) as the dad. These old roles no longer fit the educated and compassionate couple. But the road to a good and healthy co-parenting plan is not a well-worn path.

The Double-edged Sword of Divorce: Happier But Alone

single dad, single father, single parenting, divorce

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 8, 2022
Post category:Anger burn Co-Parenting Depression Divorce humans of divorce Married Life Money Parenting Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality

Here's to my kids. And here's to my wife who let me out of a miserable sexless marriage.

Your Relationship Coach / Wingman Has Arrived: 9 Wingman Skills

Post author:John McElhenney
Post published:July 5, 2022
Post category:Anger Co-Parenting Dating Depression Divorce Drinking Health and Fitness humans of divorce Joy Love Married Life Money Parenting relationship building Relationships Self-care Sex Single-Dad Spirituality Third Glass Series

My work is to help women and single moms get strong, healthy, and confident enough to design the relationship of their dreams. It's not always easy. And, we know there are no shortcuts to doing the work on yourself that will put you in the right mindset to attract a kickass partner.